On Attachment

#192: Boundaries vs. Ultimatums

Season 1 Episode 192

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the subtle (but important) differences between requests, boundaries, ultimatums, and dealbreakers. While these words are often used interchangeably, they carry different energies — and understanding those differences can help you communicate more clearly, hold your ground with integrity, and honour your needs without falling into patterns of control, people-pleasing, or collapse.

We’ll explore:

  • Why the energy behind your words matters more than the words themselves
  • What makes an ultimatum different from a boundary or dealbreaker 
  • The common trap of over-explaining instead of taking aligned action
  • Why communication problems can't be solved in isolation

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